But on that note, where are these "I"s? These "self"s? Do we even have one at all, or do we have many that we've littered about like seeds to grow and cultivate without the mothership "I" even being aware? Mothership "I"? Fuck. There I go assuming that there is some kind of a pure, base, consistent "I" whose superficialities are only sparse contingencies of its truth. Shit. I'm getting into truth/Truth which is a larvae's nest of impalpability, so let me abandon that for now, except where it relates to the "self" thing. Um, which I guess is everywhere. And nowhere. Which may be the same thing as everywhere.
Many of us seem convinced that we are frequently experiencing some varying tragedy of the self. But perhaps we're just created so many selves, all intangible yet suited to a specific need that we perceive to possess, that at least one of them, at some point if it remains so separate and autonomous, gets sick. Or gets neglected and wants attention. Or gets lost. Or just discovers the non-fulfillment embedded in mortal human experience and cannot accept it, and has deviated so far from its own awareness of its own existence that it cannot grasp actual fact and clings only to the fact that it has created to fulfill its own separate reality.
Or the female that perceives herself as breakable, disintegrating, getting smaller, getting forgotten, being eaten alive. So she lets her body eat itself alive, get smaller, become breakable, and disintegrate. She sees herself as a tiny miniscule speck of nothing in the chasm of nothingness and she becomes this tiny speck. Except now she has bone and organ damage to the body she had perceived and identified as being so innately damaged.
These created selves seek only the validation and nourishment that applies to its own aspects, not the the needs of its original source. If there was an original source. Are we born as real selves, or is even the "mothership" self I assumed exists earlier, created? Although all cells in the physical world come from pre-existing cells, what if in the metaphysical yet highly real realm, these selves come from nothing and then breed. They are mothered by the original that created itself from nothing and spread? Or they are mothered by the original that actually came from within us?
The actual self arises not in the materialization of the body, but in the consciousness of existing. So then what would being born have to do with it at all? The coming into consciousness is much more significant.
"Selfishness" at least in my experience, has been losing its connotation as a negative word, and is breaching neutral ground. It is becoming more and more accepted to admit your own selfishness, and at times, it is even praised because it is assuming that you possess some kind of care and respect you can then share with others.
But why this shift? We are a society of abstracts becoming material, and then dwelling upon and within that material. Could all of our attention now to "self": self help, self love, self protection, self care, self etc etc etc be an attempt to create material out of abstract? To try and solidify these slippery things we assume to exist that we call selves?? Other aspects of contemporary society have been able to function in this way. "Self"hood has always been a dilemma, and maybe now we are trying to "fix" it in some way by giving it the same attentions we have given other slippery concepts that have gone from abstract to physical and even common. Maybe our focus on the existence of our "self" is just a cry for these "self"s that allegedly exist to solidify. To exist wholly and not as an enigma, or maybe even as a lie. Ew, negative ending.